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# BDE

phrase/bee-dee-ee/also: big dick energy

Relaxed, unforced confidence and self-assurance.

By [Cal Hewitt](https://genzdecoded.com/about/), Gen X · Published Aug 2, 2026

Origin

Twitter and celebrity-pop-culture…

Around

2018

Popular on

English-language social media and pop…

Meaning

## What it means

BDE is a joking metaphor for calm confidence without loud boasting. It can describe any gender and is not a literal claim about anatomy.

See the quick definition in the [BDE dictionary entry](https://genzdecoded.com/dictionary/bde/).

Usage

## How to use it

- “She handled it with BDE.”

    Praising calm confidence.

- “Constant bragging is not BDE.”

    Contrasting confidence with insecurity.

Origin

## Where it came from

BDE went viral on Twitter in June 2018 during discussion of Pete Davidson and Ariana Grande. Several early tweets are tied to its spread, so a single coiner is disputed.

Who coined it

No single person is credited, the origin is disputed.

- [https://www.thecut.com/2018/06/pete-davidson-ariana-grande-big-dick-energy.html](https://www.thecut.com/2018/06/pete-davidson-ariana-grande-big-dick-energy.html)
- [https://www.gq.com/story/big-dick-energy-style-guide](https://www.gq.com/story/big-dick-energy-style-guide)

Geography

## Where it's popular

English-language social media and pop culture.

Usually humorous.

Timeline

## How it caught on

1.  June 2018BDE went viral in Pete Davidson discourse.
2.  2020sIt became broad shorthand for quiet confidence.
3.  2022Latto's Big Energy renewed attention to the meme.

Heads up

## Common mix-ups

It is not about actual genital size.

Quiz

## Test yourself

### BDE rerun

1.  BDE describes:

    - A hairstyle
    - A phone app
    - Quiet confidence **(correct answer)**
    - A medical condition

2.  BDE went viral in:

    - a video game
    - 2018 Twitter **(correct answer)**
    - a school
    - 1998 television

3.  BDE is literal anatomy:

    - No **(correct answer)**
    - Only for celebrities
    - Only for men
    - Yes

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Related

## Related slang

quiet confidenceswagger[small dick energy](https://genzdecoded.com/dictionary/small-dick-energy/)

Keep reading

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FAQ

## Questions people ask

### What does BDE stand for?

Big dick energy.

### What does BDE mean?

Relaxed self-assured confidence.

### Can anyone have BDE?

Yes. It is a metaphor, not a literal anatomical claim.

Did you know

The phrase escaped celebrity gossip almost immediately and became a general personality label.

Sources

- [https://www.thecut.com/2018/06/pete-davidson-ariana-grande-big-dick-energy.html](https://www.thecut.com/2018/06/pete-davidson-ariana-grande-big-dick-energy.html)
- [https://www.gq.com/story/big-dick-energy-style-guide](https://www.gq.com/story/big-dick-energy-style-guide)

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